You might as well just not grab at all since Grab Tier 4 Stage 1 is practically useless and it defeats the purpose of Grab.
As a destroyer myself, it cringes me hard when I run out of focus when attacking grabbed boss in SilverFrost blue/heroic dungeons. The worse part is when I tell them to spec Tier 3 Stage 2 instead, some of them insist Tier 4 Stage 1 is better. Also making enough Blade and Soul gold strengthen yourself is necessary.
When a destroyer grabs a boss, he's basically telling everyone "time to spam abilities for a good 6 seconds!". Lets see what each spec does.
Grab Tier 4 Stage 1
.defense reduction 10%, stack up to 5 times
.With how penetration stats works in this game, you only need 15% piercing to negate the defense of most bosses on the current patch. 50% defense reduction makes no difference at all.
.10% focus damage
Only useful in PvP, as it's obvious.
Grab Tier 3 Stage 2
.increase 5% crit rate, stack up to 10 times
. Apparently stacks reset when you crit. Certain abilities trigger off crit, so more spam and higher crit rate.
.20% focus recovery
Never run out of chi for these who are attacking. It's obvious that Tier 3 stage 2 is the one u wanna spec.
This situation is similar to "auto-detonate" scenario for FM. Unless someone tells you that you are wrong, it's hard to find out the mistake yourslef. Please, my fellow destoyers, spec Grab Tier 3 Stage 2.
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