Coach, I Don't Know How To


Posted May 28, 2020 by charliejon6782

In the workplace, positive psychology is telling us that positive relationships are fundamental to creating a culture of positive mental wellbeing.
 
How many times have you had a child say, "I don't know how to do it." and then just stand there waiting for you to do something? So you jump in and say, "Let me show you again." (Don't do that! It encourages dependency.)

Instead you say, "Well, Sally, show me what you can do" "Well, I can --." and she shows you what she can do relative to the task or skill. This gives you a place to start and move her on.

Chuck has just stopped near the batter's box at the baseball practice field holding his bat and is somberly saying. "I don't know how to bunt." You now say, "Show me how you're trying to do it." He shows you and now you can spot his problem and give him the assistance he needs.

The main thing here is that you continue with the communication. "But all the other guys can do it" is not the way to continue the communication. Neither is, "I've showed you how to do it a dozen times already." (These comments are Red Lights)My site Positive Psychology Coaching https://www.schoolofpositivetransformation.com/positive-psychology-practitioner-certificate/


Also we want to give that player some Praise for what he is doing. "Pat, I really liked the way you made that double play pivot and throw." can be interpreted by Pat to mean "I know all I need to know about double plays." That's also a Red Light.

Let's move it up one notch. "Pat, I really liked the way you made that double play pivot. Did you notice that Cathy's toss to you was chest high so you could make that pivot? Let's work on giving her the same kind of toss." This is called Encouragement; it leads Pat to the next level in a positive, achievable way. That's a Green Light.

Be careful!! Don't keep giving them "helpful" feedback such as, "You did that pretty good this time, but I don't think you'll ever get it right." The Perfectonist Parent and Coach like to use that one. It helps Kids decide they don't want to play this game any more.

Praise and Encouragement together are a great team for moving your crew along.

Communication, Communication, Communication for Coaches is the equivalent of Location, Location, Location for Realtors.

Dr. Peter Pierro is a coach and parent who is concerned about how our young athletes are treated by their coaches and parents. He has degrees in Psychology, History, and Education from Northern Illinois University. He played professional softball, semi-pro baseball, college basketball, and with an all-star U.S. Navy basketball team. He coached jr./sr. high school basketball, a women's softball team, a 12 and under boys baseball team, and was commissioner of a boys baseball league. He has been a consultant/contributor to the Amateur Softball Association and the Oklahoma Soccer Association.
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Last Updated May 28, 2020